Finished reading: The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi 📚 on Derek Sivers recommendation. Good intro to Adlerian psychology, which doubles as a sensible philosophy of life.
- Your happiness is based on the quality of your interpersonal relationships. We live in a society, and to be of service without expecting recognition is key to finding one’s “place” and therefore purpose.
- Be clear about the boundary line between what is your task and what is someone else’s task. If the task I am engaged in makes me disliked by someone, that dislike is their task. It is not my task to make them feel better or to somehow make their dislike go away. My task can be to ask how I can help or to sit with them, but my task is not to make them feel better about me.
- There are nuances to this standpoint, of course, but that’s enough to get started on.